"We never get to meet the person that risk turns us into" is SUCH a banger. And wow, I'm no scientist -- but the secret ingredient to chemistry this whole time was...willingness to face risk?!
Love this! I always tell people to learn to flirt shop at Trader Joes and observe the check-out people. They are always chit chatting and keeping it light and open.
"Now that I’ve flipped on the flirting switch, there’s no turning it off." LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE. Practicing turning my flirting switch all the way on, too. That sounds like the bestest way to live. 🥹🙏
So many connections & insights to chew on! I adore this concept of flirting. It manages to deprioritize romantic/sexual encounters as the end-all-be-all in favor of something so much more expansive!
I have always been a flirt! I’m not the most attractive gal in the room, but I always knew how to draw that sort of charming attention out of people. I think I get it from my dad. I love this for you!!! Welcome to the club.
Even the term attractive is so interesting, because we associate it with looks, but if you’re charming and flirty in that way, it is *literally* attractive: it magnetizes people to you!
Thanks for the warm welcome, so happy to be here. Better late than never!
Your writing is so fantastically insightful, when I see an email alerting me to a new piece, I gleefully stop what I’m doing to read it! Lane, you have something special. You ARE something special. 🥰
This line, "Uncertainty keeps us awake to possibility.", struck me, deep in the heart. But then I recovered, and kept reading. Great piece and I'll pr'lly come back and read more, as there are enough details in here to leave me intrigued. Well done and bravo.
I don’t know whether to be more impressed by your newfound magnetism or the sheer cuteness of these hand-written notes. It’s giving old-school romance, and I’m obsessed. Honestly, who knew co-working spaces had such Rizz in Residence energy?
Also, I love how you’ve reframed flirting—not as some high-stakes, soul-exposing risk, but as play. It makes everything lighter, more electric. Like, why not add a little more charm, curiosity, and handwritten mystery notes into life? If uncertainty is the portal, you’re sprinting through it in heels, blowing kisses as you go.
Keep the flirt switch on. The world is better for it. 😏
"We never get to meet the person that risk turns us into" is SUCH a banger. And wow, I'm no scientist -- but the secret ingredient to chemistry this whole time was...willingness to face risk?!
We’ve figured it out. 👩🏼🔬👨🏻🔬
Love this! I always tell people to learn to flirt shop at Trader Joes and observe the check-out people. They are always chit chatting and keeping it light and open.
They are truly the masters. I study at their feet.
"Now that I’ve flipped on the flirting switch, there’s no turning it off." LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE. Practicing turning my flirting switch all the way on, too. That sounds like the bestest way to live. 🥹🙏
Crank up the dial, Megan! The more flirting energy we’re putting out into the world, the BETTER. ❤️🔥
Cranking it up!!! ❤️🔥
The idea of seeing flirting as a spiritual practice that awakens you to possibility is fascinating. Your journey is so inspiring Lane.
Annie! Thank you! For what it’s worth, I think you are an excellent flirt. 😌❤️🔥
So many connections & insights to chew on! I adore this concept of flirting. It manages to deprioritize romantic/sexual encounters as the end-all-be-all in favor of something so much more expansive!
Exactly! Flirting is good for everyone. ❤️🔥
I have always been a flirt! I’m not the most attractive gal in the room, but I always knew how to draw that sort of charming attention out of people. I think I get it from my dad. I love this for you!!! Welcome to the club.
Even the term attractive is so interesting, because we associate it with looks, but if you’re charming and flirty in that way, it is *literally* attractive: it magnetizes people to you!
Thanks for the warm welcome, so happy to be here. Better late than never!
Very true re: attractive!! I never thought of it that way!
Your writing is so fantastically insightful, when I see an email alerting me to a new piece, I gleefully stop what I’m doing to read it! Lane, you have something special. You ARE something special. 🥰
Thank you, Kim! This means a lot. 🥲
So many great thought provoking quotes - not only pulled out, but woven in your own words too! I want to go flirt with someone today!
DO IT. 💋 Consider it a public service. And thanks for reading!
Wow, another shocker 🤗 you'll be the guilty party if I sell everything with my partner and go world travelling...
This line, "Uncertainty keeps us awake to possibility.", struck me, deep in the heart. But then I recovered, and kept reading. Great piece and I'll pr'lly come back and read more, as there are enough details in here to leave me intrigued. Well done and bravo.
It took WAY too long to be comfortable enough with myself to radiate that kind of energy. Now it’s on all the time, and I enjoy the hell out of it!
I don’t know whether to be more impressed by your newfound magnetism or the sheer cuteness of these hand-written notes. It’s giving old-school romance, and I’m obsessed. Honestly, who knew co-working spaces had such Rizz in Residence energy?
Also, I love how you’ve reframed flirting—not as some high-stakes, soul-exposing risk, but as play. It makes everything lighter, more electric. Like, why not add a little more charm, curiosity, and handwritten mystery notes into life? If uncertainty is the portal, you’re sprinting through it in heels, blowing kisses as you go.
Keep the flirt switch on. The world is better for it. 😏
::blushes, scrolls away::
Incidentally, my writing of this comment is me flirting with you. 😌
Give me friction or give me death. Great Scott, this was a great write.
such a fun read—your insights and experience are so similar to mine. subscribed when you quoted the artists way (:
LOVE finding fellow Artist's Way disciples in the wild. 🫡
Gah I am obsessed with the entirety of this essay!!
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