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Chelsea Caffey's avatar

I read this piece when it came out, and again right now, and I tried to “like” it twice. Such amazing insight, Lane. I’m brainstorming the experiments I want to run…

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Kimberly Kavanagh's avatar

Another great post, Lane. I admire your courage, curiosity, and willingness to craft the life that fits, rather than the one ascribed to you. You truly are a remarkable and inspiring person!

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Julia Fetty's avatar

I could not resonate more with this. This was such a slap in the face for me, for my desires as well. I feel like I've built something that's the opposite of what I really want, to. Thank you. <3

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Lane Scott Jones's avatar

Deeeeeply relate to that "slap in the face" feeling. 🙃 But hey, that's the necessary first step on this journey to a life you want. Blow it up, Julia! 🧨

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Megan Lee's avatar

As someone who wants to blow up her life… thank you, sincerely, for being you and sharing this. ♥️🙏 Every word you wrote was a beacon of hope to my soul. And I LOVE the life wheel ideal… I’m 100% doing that. 🥹🙏

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Lane Scott Jones's avatar

I’m so glad to hear that! When you fill out that Wheel of Life, I’ll be curious to hear what you notice. It really was the thing that gave me clarity about where to start. Godspeed, Megan!

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Megan Lee's avatar

♥️♥️ Thank you! Gonna fill it out today. 🙏

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The True North Journal's avatar

This is a great piece! As someone who had a string of bad work days, hit the F'it button, retired, and moved to Italy, the tools you used to pause, reflect, and launch your best life are on point. Brava!

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Lane Scott Jones's avatar

Thank you so much! That means a lot.

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Amber Spektra's avatar

I started on a similar path in 2012 and moved all of my boxes into a friend's garage. After 1.5 years, 19 countries, 6 continents, and more memories than I could ever count, I returned to Seattle to find that nothing had really changed in my absence. I was worried I might miss out on something but found I had actually been exactly where I was meant to be.

I've been living fully nomadically (in many different cities and countries) since 2018 and still return 'home' to visit friends when I can. I completely agree with you about community and have found myself feeling at 'home' in most places I've been. For me, 'home' has changed from a place to a feeling and it's something I now carry with me in my heart.

I wish you all the best on your journey ahead and look forward to following along! Thank you for sharing and inspiring others (myself included)!

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The Compass Paradox's avatar

I shall save this and read this tomorrow . Looks interesting

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The Compass Paradox's avatar

Hi, this was quite interesting.

And I had a similar path laid out for me. But I have decided to not follow it.

Idk how because it’s scary when you’re 22 and haven’t really known any other world but the bubble you were raised in.

But yes religious deconstruction is one of the things that helped me redefine morality and understand that there’s not one right path that everyone should follow.

Also that part where you mentioned that you don’t need to know the place to go there is so real. Because I feel when I’m solo travelling I’m a little anxious whether everything will fall Into place as I’m not sure where I’m going. Maybe it’s perfectionism or uncertainty.

Anyways quite insightful. I do feel I’m quite lucky to realise what I don’t want. And that to at such a young age. But the challenging part is to pursue a life that doesn’t exist yet. Do you have any advice for people like us. Something you wish you were told. Or earlier

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Carl Camembert Henn's avatar

This is a fantastic story. Good for you for breaking out of the conventional life to find out who you really are. I had a different path, mostly working overseas until I retired, then found myself in the box where retirees go. Sit at home in a recliner. No way! Thanks for laying out the steps that you took to break free so that other people can try to follow your example. Keep going. Keep writing. I just started my blog, Like a Buffalo, Roam, two months ago, and am eagerly learning from examples such as yours. Never too old to learn. Never too young to set an example.

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Loran Vanden Bosch's avatar

Thank you. I am thinking of moving abroad and have started taking steps toward making that happen but I sometimes feel guilty about it. Reading this made me feel like it would be the right choice.

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Kristine Claghorn's avatar

Really enjoyed this ♥️

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